To Believe...or Not To Believe...People..
Article by Haniel Adhar
Believe IN people, but don't "believe" them.
What someone says to you is not always what they really mean, and their actions can be as misleading as their speech.
This is so true in life, especially western civilization, that when someone comes along that is actually honest and sincere, the first and sometimes only reaction is to not believe a damned thing they say or do, and question and scrutinize every one of their actions as if they have some sort of ulterior motivation. This, the failing of our society, to vilify the honest and to reward the illusionists who present a palatable picture that placates our deepest insecurities. The Pied Piper's song is often sweeter and more pleasing to the ear than the warnings of the impending doom awaiting at the end of the cliff.
What winds up happening is anything that is real, that has substance and flesh to it, is universally rejected ironically due to a deep rooted insecurity founds in many people as a result of being deceived. Think about that for a second...the individuals who are presenting themselves and honest and honorable are rejected because of other people not being honest and honorable. So, these individuals become scorned in favor of someone re-creating the same mistakes over and over, like some sort of habitual junkie not able to quit the "stuff", even if deep down inside he or she knows that the "stuff" is destroying them.
There is something to be said about people who continue to doubt reality in favor of some carefully crafted illusion, or, worse, an extreme form of self preservation that limits any opportunity to get genuinely close to people. This is a warped form of fear, similar to that of a stray cat terrified of a human as a result of conditioning; they unfairly but justifiably misjudge humans trying to feed them due to how they were mislead and harmed in the past by humans feigning care. But, the issue here is that human beings are *supposed* to be self aware, intelligent, intellectually advanced beings that can tell the difference between a threat and a sincere gesture. Apparently, my sentiment is wrong. Humans do not have this innate sense of wise discernment where they can use logic and reasoning to understand what a real threat is. We are, quite frankly, Pavlov's dogs, where anything that resembles a past traumatic experience becomes a trigger that sets off a reaction to relive that experience, subconsciously or consciously, which leads to an avulsion of the individual to that which triggered the reaction. This is the crux of conditioning-through-life-experience without the intensive study and training in how to truly understand and come to grips with life experiences. Instead, each experience that on the surface resembles a past one is lumped into one great, big category, without paying attention to the subtle nuances that clearly make some experiences distinctively different than others.
However, when a "new" experience is presented, perhaps one that on the surface is "gleaming", the person would immediately be drawn to it. Such an experience is soothing, calming, and immediately rewarding. It has a warm, accepting feeling. However, the prior conditioning of this new experience does not exist, so the individual accepts it without question. This is why what one experiences must be carefully understood for what it really is, and to base one's judgments and assessments on a case-by-case basis. Easier said than done, but this is called "wisdom". Wisdom is understanding a situation and knowing what is the correct decision based on that understanding. The "why" and the mechanics of a set of circumstances are infinitely more important than the circumstances themselves.
So, the question is: "Do I believe this person?" This is what plagues many of us, as due to our own conditioning of our past experiences, relationships, and so on, we are constantly at war with what we have in front of us, and what we experienced behind us. We don't want to make the same mistake twice. So, it is like a game of "what is behind the door", where you choose door #1, which is something you are "used to" but may not exactly like, and the risk of choosing what is behind door number 2 is too great to risk the familiarity of door number 1. The natural inclination is to stick with what you are familiar with, no matter how bad it may be; it is still better than the unknown. This is what makes that Pied Piper's song so appealing: while it is something that "sounds" new and fresh and presents the veneer of palatable change, it is really just something that the person's consciousness is used to, and it doesn't present the fearful "change" that repels people from new and risky experiences. He tells you what you want to hear, and wraps it in a blanket of familiar security, using words and phrases and tones that make you feel comfortable. But really, in reality, all he is doing is lying through the gap in his teeth, telling you whatever he has to in order to get the desired result out of you. I suppose this is the nature of "temptation" as spoken of in religious scripture.
But how does one discern between what is right and true and what is the lie perpetuated by those who stand to gain from manipulating your perception? If I had that answer, I could start a new religion that would take the place of all the world's religions. Alas, this is not the case, because no one knows the answer. It doesn't exist, because it is based purely on the individual situation, and the rules change with each new one. So, only through training, contemplation, and self-actualization can one gain the understanding and ultimately wisdom to make that decision of discernment. It is no easy task, and the average human being of the various cultures and creeds simply doesn't have the stillness of mind and spirit to do that. It is a lifelong process, a dedication of the grand work that requires much sacrifice and pain. A lot of the relative world must be given up by the individual in order to understand it, and the basic person whose instinct is self preservation, the sustaining biological functions, and the immediate gratification in the present moment has not the skill set nor the desire to learn such "secrets. Instead, they cling hard to their mundane needs and shallow desires, abnegating any sacrifice that would jeopardize these precious material entities. They have been conditioned to only accept that which provides immediate satisfaction, bucking and rejecting anything else that steers them away from it. It is the fixation on the things that could be seen at the expense of those things that cannot be immediately perceived. And, without knowing, ironically, the person is making the greatest sacrifice of their lives by rejecting the greatness that comes with deep understanding and wisdom, for simply earthly pleasures or the things that provide an immediate sense of security.